MY DRESSING, MY REPUTATION

What has my Dressing got to do with me?

 Trend says everyone is wearing it and there's nothing wrong with showing a little skin besides it's the in thing. But Virtue says you are a masterpiece and should respect your honour and privacy. Your dressing should be the legacy you have laid down not some fabric or some tailored piece.

I am not against Fashion but I am for moderate dressing. 

We hear news of women being stripped in most African countries for disrespecting public decency or appearing in a certain revealing way in public yet we as women refuse to make amends to redeem the virtues of the women folks. Women are now categorised in a certain sense and judged based on their body features and appearance and not what they can deliver. Women are not even believed to make an honest success without using their endowments as collateral. THAT'S ABSURD THINKING!

 A popular Nigerian female poet wrote;

 "We raise girls to cater to the fragile ego of men. We teach girls to shrink themselves , to make themselves smaller. We tell them 'you can have an ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. We teach girls shame- close your legs, cover yourself. We make them  feel as though by being born female, they're already guilty of something. And so girls grow up to be women who cannot see they have desires.  They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they think. And they grow up- and this is the worst thing we do to girls- they grow up to be women who turn pretense into an art form" - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Your dressing defines your confidence, your general emotion, your strength as a woman and generally your personality. You control what you want people to perceive you as from what you wear. Dressing has gone way promiscuous. Ladies now feel comfortable to wear pieces of clothes we used to call rags so comfortably because trends has made it alright. You can't wave bacon in front of a dog and not expect it to follow you around. When you use your body to attract a man's attention, he's not gon want anything else but your body. Don’t expect to give him a piece of your intellect or your beliefs to keep him. We all want to act like all men are the same; if you keep doing the same thing to attract men, you will definitely attract the same kind of men. If you use your body to attract men, you will attract the same kind of men. But if you try to offer them your intellect or your belief, you will definitely attract a different kind of man. I have nothing against your choice of social hangout but you will agree with me that a woman who chooses the religious institution as her social hangout will attract a different kind of man from a woman whose choice of mingle is the club. 

Women have to understand their value. It’s inappropriate for someone else to see your breast, cleavage, or your laps not to talk of your sacred area. If it is so right, how many guys have you seen revealing their sacred. The truth is you can’t dress like a CALL GIRL and tell him not to judge you from your dressing. It’s like someone dressed in a police uniform and claims not to be one. That uniform is his identity, his personality and his reputation. So dress the way you want to be addressed because it's your identity, your personality, and your reputation. Your body is your temple, your glory, your pride and when you misrepresent it, you are disrespecting it. Don’t expect others to do otherwise.

Can someone try explaining what a ladies stomach, cleavage, booty bump, breasts, laps is doing outside her outfits in public?

Let’s face it, we all know what’s right and what’s wrong, Yes, The Media displays these stuffs as a form of ENTERTAINMENT, but it doesn’t make it right for one to dress in such manner in public.

What do you stand to gain when you have a lot to lose? Dress modestly ladies. Respect your Glory because you are the crown of your man and the sceptre of your children, like it’s said, the way you dress defines how you will be addressed and perceived.

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