HIS FIST OF REVERSE PASSION

When a folded fist is well recognised in a relationship as the guideline, the supreme, the authority, an act of correction or an act of gruesome love, then there is a problem.

Physical abuse is a form of domestic violence in which the victim is brutalised by hitting, shoving, grabbing, biting, restraining, shaking, choking, burning, forcing drug/alcohol use, and assault with a weapon, etc. Physical violence may or may not result in an injury that requires medical attention.

Many women go through this in their homes but are left with no options of escape. 

These women are usually a nervous wreck, trusts no one, and generally live a life of fear. Children in such homes end up becoming abusers when they grow up because they have a damaged belief of themselves, other people and the world at large.

What is really disturbing is when a single woman faces this form of abuse from her boyfriend and still believes he will change when they get married. To some degree of acceptance when a married woman refuses to leave for fear of her children's safety, it's understandable but what's your excuse as a spinster/a young woman when you're constantly beaten by a man who your family doesn't even know exists in your life. 

This piece is not to address the abuse in a marriage but the ignorant abuse young ladies face with a man that is still in the boyfriend zone. To the single ladies out there, Use Your Head. If he beats you when he hasn't married you; Oh! Yes dear he'll probably enslave you when you're his wife.

There is no form of domestic violation of a ladies body that is an act of love, it's all sheer manipulation because a gentleman will never lay a fist on you. To the lady who just sits there and swallows all these disrespect, hoping he would change and love you like when you guys first met; well here's a spoiler, that's his true nature and don't think you would have a chance of changing him. One’s true nature unfolds as years go by in a relationship. 

My advice: Flee from that relationship. It’s killing your value as a woman, ruining your confidence and tarnishing your self-esteem. See this

I received emails from ladies who pleaded to be anonymous;

“Dear Cynth, I am in a relationship with this guy. We live together but he beats me at every slightest provocation and even throws my stuffs out. i stay with my friends for some time and when we make up, i move back in with him. i have contemplated leaving him but i love him too much to let him go"

“Hi Cynth, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years plus now and I love him but I’m tired of fighting with him which gets really physical. He beats me and calls me names which provokes me to retaliate. Please what should I do? I really love this guy." 

I really feel your plight ladies but I have same reply for both issues. I understand as a woman how much it means to truly love a guy but if he beats you, he doesn't deserve that love. A man who fears God and respects his mother's feminity would never have the guts to beat a woman. I will tell you in utmost confidence that there are guys who respects a woman's value. Stop subjecting yourself to inhumane treatment and abuse all in the name of love. Leave that guy and focus on building your future, the one you've always wanted. In due time, you will meet a man who values your worth. FLEE FROM THAT ABUSE, YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN GEMSTONES. 

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